No, I would say that not everyone should vote democratic, I think most people who vote for Trump did so for an uneducated or irrational reason. I have talked to a lot of people. The Republicans should have nominated someone else, and they should stand up to Trump. People should have followed Damocles and voted 3rd party.
The Democrats are a mess, and the Republicans have lost the reality of what our system is set up for and are abusing it. They have deferred to a single man and treat him like a King. They (by and large) would not dare go against him or ever refuse to do what he says. They confirmed Pam Bondi for example. I agree with most of the things people have told you about the democrats, except this..
... The Democrats have not focused on identity politics, the Trumppers just say we have, and run with it.
... The messaging is awful but I understand why, it's hard to be anything but anti-Trump because every time the Democrats get any traction, he makes himself the gorilla in the room, for some reason being the Gorilla takes attention, and what he did to be the gorilla is so bad, it demands attention, yet his disciples will never thing he did anything wrong.
None of the things you listed about Democrats is anything compared to Trump's attacks on the First Amendment, his criminal behavior, his misuse of the justice department for personal vendettas, just to list the first three that come to mind.
Trump is a criminal and abuses the Government for his personal gain, and has 0 regard for the Constitution, yet the Democrats are losing because they lost their focus? That makes no sense.