If it doesn't matter why are you sounding off about it. Seems to matter to you. The point is whether you call them demands or conditions or areas of discussion they are a possible way out. Why not explore that way?
Why not consider the four points and decide, one by one, if they are reasonable or not reasonable. That is all this thread is about. Instead we have 14 pages of posturing and evasion.
I can't fault a single point you just made.