I generally ask for the item to be returned and he generally returns it.
If a person won’t return an item to you, you should wait till they do, or call someone else to appeal to them to return the phone. I, nor my husband, would ever wrestle an item from the other or any other person for that matter, under these circumstances. There are times when it is warranted, if someone’s trying to harm themselves, but not merely because you want the item returned when you demand it, that’s being abusive.
It’s why I don’t think this is the first encounter this couple has had with one another. The interaction shows problems in their marriage.