I went to a funeral last night, my friends brother. He was an alcoholic and was also addicted to cocaine. The family was very open at the funeral about his addiction. His sister read a letter he had written before his death to be read at the funeral, he apologized to all he had hurt because if his lifestyle, everyone in the Chapel was crying.
Then the cousin stood up, he is a missionionary who also was addicted to cocaine until he was "saved", he then started to give his personal testimony to Jesus Christ and asked everyone to stand and committ themselves to Jesus. The discomfort in the room was so thick you could have cut it with a knife. I heard one lady whisper, this is so inaapropriate.
It got worse, when no one stood, he called out a Baptist minister, this gentle man has a Doctorate in Divinity, he had spoken earlier and had told a personal story about the deceased and the only mention he made of his beliefs was that R. was now in the arms of his Savior and sited a Bible verse. The minister did not stand and also did not comment, I felt bad for him having been put on the spot, but it was obvious he had already given his life to God. The room was so silent you could have heard a pin drop. The cousin finally realized that no one was going to come to God at that moment and he sighed and left the podium, in fact he left the funeral.
I am always horrified that some people use a funeral to "preach", I feel it is not the time to ask people to come to Jesus. I felt so bad for the family. I felt so bad for all those in attendance.