I don't agree.
(not saying these apply to you)
1) the dead have no idea what you are saying.
So 'showing respect' means nothing as they cannot even hear it.
2) when I die - I don't want anyone talking ANY different about me when I am gone than when I was alive.
Slag me now AND slag me then.
So I am cool with the Golden Rule on this.
3) anyone who is against cancel culture and excessive PC these days.
Yet turns around and demands/knocks others for saying what they think about someone who has died are HYPOCRITES.
Period.
And if I can piss off hypocrites?
FINE with me.