What's ironic is, DADT was a Democrat compromise arrangement to allow gays to be able to serve in the military. Before this, a gay person had to literally lie, when asked if they were homosexual. The DADT policy was implemented to stop the asking of that question, and that supposedly solved the problem... but it didn't... it never does with liberal activists.
What you said in your last sentence, is the very problem we have these days. Too many of us want to get along with others and try to accommodate, by saying... well, if allowing this or that will make things better.... But things are never 'better' for an activist. They will simply push the bar further.... one day, you will be sitting on a bus, when a gay man walks up to you and sticks his dick in your mouth, and there will be nothing you can say or do about it, because we've made it the law, to allow such a thing! That's where this incremental liberal bullshit leads us! At some point, we need to put our foot down and say, not just NO, but HELL NO! I don't care if you call me a homophobe, or a bigot, or knuckledragging Christian... I am opposed to this and nothing will change my mind about it! But for now, we are stuck with a contingent of somewhat conservative moral people, who will cave and appease at any opportunity, to avoid being disliked or stigmatized by the left.