Technically, not even Nifty said that the child should be congratulated. To be specific, he said "A 13-year-old boy gets high fives from his friends for scoring a thirty year old woman. Maybe even from his dad, who knows?"
I think even Nifty may concede that his friends might not feel that way, but when I was 13, the idea of having a consensual sexual relationship with a female my age or older certainly sounded like a great idea in an ideal world. That doesn't mean I would have done it. As I pointed out in post #82, I actually declined what I considered to be sexual advances from a girl who was around 17 when I was 11 twice at a summer camp I went to, primarily because I strongly suspected that she would be punished if we were to thus engage. As I explained in that post, I suspect that she ended up engaging in a sexual activity with someone else and got sent home early.
The real issue, however, is whether in our society's quest to "protect" children from sexuality, they frequently make things worse. I was fairly timid as a youth, so I ended up having fairly limited sexual interactions with females up until I was 20 years old. At that point, I was in Mexico on vacation with family and a guy friend and me and said guy friend decided to go to a strip club. Turns out, the main business there wasn't stripping- when we sat down at a table, the waiter asked us if we'd like 2 young women to come to our tables. I thought it was strange but why would I say no to that? When the women came, they said it'd be so much for a dance and so much for a bedroom visit in the adjoining hotel. Me and my friend took the bedroom visits.
Now, I'm glad that I had that opportunity, but I would have preferred to have had a relationship with someone who I didn't need to pay for the act. I also did some things I regret, things I don't think I would have done if I'd known what I know now about sexual relationships that I know now.
I still remember sex ed in a public school I went to- the teacher had started to explain the function of the body parts and I remember several of us giggling until the teacher said sternly that we weren't to laugh. I think that was a mistake. I'm not saying that the subject wasn't serious, but I think that things could have -started- with laughter and then the teacher could have gently taken us towards us realizing how important sexual actions are instead of just a dry run of how babies are produced.
And we -never- got into how to approach someone you're attracted to and certainly never had any talks about age of consent laws or things of that nature. Food for thought- had the boy known that engaging in sexual activity could get his sexual partner in trouble, perhaps he might not have done it. There are a lot of 'what ifs' in my life, and I put the blame squarely on the adults in my world predominantly keeping me in the dark on a lot of things. I don't find it surprising that I stumbled in the dark because of it.
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