You can think what you want to, but with 80% of the country opposed to "gay marriage" you are going to have a really long wait. You are actually on the verge of pushing America into adopting a Constitutional Amendment to protect traditional marriage.
My solution is a reasonable way to remedy the problems, and put the issue to rest once and for all. I happen to believe it will eventually be the answer accepted. Civil Unions, removing government from the 'marriage' business, and allowing any two adults to enter into a contractual agreement, without regard for their sexuality or relationship. It also removes the 'sanctity of marriage' issue raised by those of religious faith... I know they aren't important to you, but as a part of our society, they do have a say in the issue. Nope... "Gay Marriage" is never going to fly, but extremists like yourself, will continue to push for it, keeping the issue alive and subsequently, keeping gay people from enjoying the benefits they desire. One day, perhaps people will realize, YOU are the problem.
I have no problem with pot smokers, or even smoking it myself on occasion. But if you think, for one second, that our government is ever going to approve legalization of something you smoke and ingest into your lungs, especially when health issues are so prevalent in our society, you are beyond brain dead. It isn't going to happen. Making simple possession not a crime, stopping the madness of locking people up in prison for possession of a weed, that might actually have promise and hope... but legalizing it? Nope, won't happen!