you have to follow protocol. 1st thing you look at is espionage/assassination -regime disruption.So, what's the solution if sanctions don't work? You attack NK you attack China, what would you do since you seem to think you know more than all previous administrations?
Then you tell China this isn't negotiable if ( when) NK has actual proven ICBM technology- it's an unacceptable risk
and China should understand a military option is the very last option -but it's a viable option .
Maybe then China steps in at the last minute with real crippling sanctions -or maybe they tell us they won't get into a US/NK war if it doesn't threaten it's borders.
But our actions are still independent- not reliant on Chinese moves
Steady pressure/rational steps/but with the bottom line being NK with ICBM nukes is too much of an existential threat to rely just on ABMs
