(Originally Posted by cawacko ) I have no idea if their marriage has/had passion or not. I thought that was the point your were trying to make by saying no matter how good they may look they may be that after 40 yeras of marriage the passion would be gone.
My point is that in all cases it is much less passionate than it was in the beginning, and in many cases, the couples no longer have sex after 40 years of marriage. I don't know the statistics or even if there are reliable ones. And that no matter how good looking your lover is, when you've been boning them for 40 years guess what Cawacko? It's no big deal anymore and I have seen so many cases where the husband or wife leaves for a third party that could subjectively be considered less physically attractive than the spouse.
I don't know but I never looked at sex like last night's leftovers and thought, "Gee, we had the same thing last night."
I believe you said it was disgusting to post pictures of wife and the mistress. I wouldn't call it disgusting. It can definitely be refered to as superficial but then why do so many older men get divorced and then remarry younger better looking "trophy wives"? (But yes you are right in your '60's you're not going to look like you did in your 20's or 30's.)
No, it's disgusting, I am sorry. First of all his mistress is 20 years his junior. That means she's 20 years his wife's junior I believe as they seem the same age. It is so smarmy for anyone to demand a 60 yo woman compete sexually with a 40 yo woman. Your question about so many older men getting divorced and remarrying younger women has an obvious answer, but maybe you should ask yourself that most divorces are now initiated by women especially when the couple is over 50. Why do you think that is Cawacko?
From what I've heard, in those cases, the guy loses interest or can't get it up. That's why I stress the importance of sex. It is the intimacy, the bonding, which when a couple goes without it results in affairs. It's almost inevitable. They become room mates.
I also understand that when people cheat it can be an emotional thing just as much as they think the other person looks 'hot'.
Yeah of course, it could be a lot of things. It can also be that some people just really love that new infatuated feeling. If they could bottle that do you think there'd be a shortage of customers? This is why IMO, there are so many office affairs sans sex. When you don't have the heart to sex someone else because you are loyal to your spouse, but you are still getting that daily buzz.
That "buzz" wouldn't be nearly as strong if people were getting sex at home. An analogy could be dinner. If a person is hungry due to a lack of food (sex) at home and they have a choice between a nice restaurant (a hottie) and a greasy spoon (a fromp) they'll pick the nice restaurant (the hottie) even though that doesn't necessarily mean the food (sex) is better than at home. If they're getting none at home and have a choice when away from home then it's natural they'll pick the best one.
Again I have no clue here but I'm going to guess that Patreus with his position and power probably has had lots of opportunities to stray.
Yes, and my guess is that he has strayed more than once. I am betting there's a good reason this woman was threatened by the second woman - the one she sent these threatening emails to. A very good reason. My guess is also that he would have been doing the same thing even if Holly Patraues hadn't let her hair go grey and allowed some criminal to style it that way, had dressed better, and had knocked off 25 lbs. It wouldn't matter. Why do you think Hollywood couples get divorced and there was someone else? They're all hot, but guess what, it doesn't matter. But in Holly Patraeus' case all of those things are going to contribute to her public humiliation in the days to come. And putting up a picture of her husband's decades-younger side piece with a "who wouldn't" laugh, contributes to that..
Anyone who marries/co-habits with someone who is away from home a lot can expect problems. Maybe not at the beginning of a relationship but the "buzz" is supposed to evolve into a close intimacy and that is destroyed by lengthy and/or frequent separation.