This is what Mr Bookman meant by "your Good time buddies think it's funny to draw pee-pees and wee-wees..."
This is bow-tie [gay] porn.
IMO, the uomo early on experienced intense anger against their father** yet the uomo's Id has no malice deep in their psyche.
Yet they are traumatised by that anger that reconciliation comes via homoerotic release.
Ergo, an uomo loving another uomo demonstrates that love has conquered the past un-resolved traumatic anger/hate issue.
**in contradistinction to the oedipus complex pathos.