The fact is they have been forced to pay for something all their life, of course they want as much out of it as they can get for their investment. The real debate is that if they were to invest that money privately they would be able to get a better return. They would be happy to not take it as long as their not forced to pay for it.
As far as equality of opportunity affirmative action does no such thing. It's goal is equality of outcome...
"Everybody has asked the question. . ."What shall we do with the Negro?" I have had but one answer from the beginning. Do nothing with us! Your doing with us has already played the mischief with us. Do nothing with us! If the apples will not remain on the tree of their own strength, if they are wormeaten at the core, if they are early ripe and disposed to fall, let them fall! I am not for tying or fastening them on the tree in any way, except by nature's plan, and if they will not stay there, let them fall. And if the Negro cannot stand on his own legs, let him fall also. All I ask is, give him a chance to stand on his own legs! Let him alone!"
Frederick Douglass