Ok, show me where that infrastructure money is being spent and how.
Why. Is your Google broken?
Major infrastructure projects are famous for by passing rural and small town area and thus limiting their potential for economic development
Major infrastructure projects are famous for disproportionately focusing on rural and small town areas, thereby exacerbating that situation where federal money in the US tends to flow from urban states to rural ones. It's odd you didn't know that. Anyway, here's a specific example:
https://www.constructiondive.com/ne...tate-gets-from-the-highway-bill-its-l/586773/
That's the FAST Act (Fixing America's Surface Transportation). The table lists the FY 2021 estimated approved amount by state. They don't provide it in per-capita terms, but copy it into Excel, and copy a list of the state's and their populations, and in a few seconds you can produce the per-capita numbers.
As will come as a surprise to absolutely nobody familiar with how infrastructure spending tends to be distributed in the US, VASTLY more goes, per capita, to rural areas, consistent with the usual practice of the productive urban parts of the country subsidizing life for those who choose to live in the hinterlands.
Specifically, the top recipient, per capita, is Alaska (home of the famous "bridge to nowhere"), which gets $748.46 per capita. The lowest, not surprisingly, is NY, which gets just $90.96 per capita. The top ten are almost all rural states:
AK, WY, MT, ND, SD, VT, WV, RI, NM, and AR. RI is the only one of the ten that isn't more rural than the nation as a whole. At the other end, the ten states that get screwed the hardest in terms of the lowest per capita share of the money, are NY, MA, FL, WA, CA, CO, MD, NC, AZ, and MI.
Eight of the ten are more urbanized than the nation as a whole:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urbanization_in_the_United_States
We base funding our educational systems at the State level in which wealthy communities have excellent schools and rural communities schools are starved for funding.
Some funding also flows from the federal government, and that tends to flow disproportionately to poorer areas. And biggest poverty is measured solely with regard to income, for things like eligibility to federal school lunch subsidies, without regard to local cost of living, it really benefits rural areas, where incomes are lower and so are costs of living, versus urban areas where costs run high.
wage growth has been stagnant for them for those fifty years.
Just so I'm sure we're talking about the same thing, which measure of wages are you using? Using real average hourly earnings of production and nonsupervisory employees, it's true that right now we're just a little higher than we were 50 years ago. However, calling that "stagnant" may be a bit of a stretch, since there was dramatic movement within that time. First, we had a long era of dramatic worsening, from the late Nixon era through the Reagan/Bush era. Then we had a dramatic period of improvement, after that, which made up for the prior losses and a bit more.
My experience in actually living in rural communities is that they tend to be more egalitarian than urban communities where folks are purposefully segregated by socioeconomic status.
I suppose it depends on what you mean by segregation. But in urban areas, the rich and the poor tend to live very close together. Like the distance between the ultra-rich Upper West Side and Central Harlem is about two miles. In my experience with more rural areas, it's not uncommon for it to be 20 miles from the nice towns to the poor towns.