you should do some self introspection, learn about yourself. let me give you a direction......
The Traitorous Critic Fallacy
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ergo_decedo
means responding to criticism by attacking a person's perceived favorability to an out-group as the underlying reason for the criticism rather than addressing the criticism itself. The critic is assumed to be ungrateful of the values and customs of the group or traitorous, and thus suggested that they should stay away from the issue altogether, typically by leaving the group.
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