How do you teach women self acceptance? You tell me and we'll both win the Nobel Prize. I can remember when I used to work as a volunteer personal fitness trainer. My single biggest frustration in coaching women was their preoccupation with body image. Most guys, with in limits, could care less. Women, good lord do they care. The ones who were hung up on body usually wasted my time as their goals and values weren't compatible with what I was trying to teach them, which wasn't how to look well but how to live well.
One of the tests I had before I would consent to train a woman was that she would have to go home and throw away her bathroom scale cause that's not how I worked. Probably half the women I told that to said "Oh no I couldn't possibly do that." and I'd say "Sorry, go find another coach." and they would. I know that makes me sound like a prick but I just simply didn't know how to deal with their body image hangups and coach them at the same time. Some would get the big idea, that it's not about looking hot in a bikini. It's about enjoying life by being physically active. The looking hot part comes mostly from living well and self confidence (good genes don't hurt....I mean a good coach can only do so much.....someone like SF will alway be fucking ugly no matter how hard they train!
For guys most of coaching is about motivation and setting and accomplishing goals. I found that in training women it was mostly about incrementally building self confidence by showing they were capable of phsyically accomplishing far more than they thought they could if they just tried and have a positive attitude about it but that was only affective with less than half the women I trained. Most were obsessed with getting fit for all the wrong damned reason. It was truly exasperating.