Just finished watching the above video- at 21 minutes, it could -definitely- do with some editing- it repeats multiple points multiple times. That being said, I think the points it makes are pretty good.
Quoting the concluding remarks of the video below:
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If you're a man in your 40s, you have choices you didn't have at 25. Option one, date women your age. Understand what you're getting. More baggage, less fertility, potentially settling for you. Urgent timeline, comparison to past relationships. This can work, but enter it with eyes open. Option two, date younger women. If you're established and attractive enough, women in their late 20s and early 30s might be interested. You're offering stability they value. They're offering youth and fewer complications. The power dynamic favors you. Option three, stay single. Enjoy your freedom, your resources, your peace. You don't owe anyone a relationship. If the options don't excite you, don't settle just because women are finally showing interest. What matters is that you choose consciously. Understanding the actual dynamics, not operating under the illusion that this sudden attention means you finally became the man women always wanted. Women over 40 finally notice average men because the market corrected. The power they had at 25 evaporated by 40 and average men suddenly became the best available option in a dramatically reduced pool. This isn't about hating women. This isn't about revenge. This is about understanding market dynamics so you can make informed decisions about relationships, commitment, and what you actually want.
The women who filtered you out at 25, they're not suddenly attracted to who you've become. They're accepting what they can get with the options they have left. There's a profound difference between being chosen because someone desires you and being chosen because someone's alternatives disappeared. You can build a genuine relationship with someone who initially viewed you as a compromise. People do grow to love what they settled for, but you should enter that dynamic understanding what it actually is, not romanticizing it into something it's not.
The market shifted. You now have power you didn't have before. Use it wisely. Don't waste your newfound options on someone who simply exhausted their preferences, who's trying to lock down the best remaining option before time runs out completely. You deserve to be someone's genuine choice, not their last resort. And at 40, for the first time in your life, you might actually have the leverage to demand that. The reality is simple. Market dynamics don't care about what's fair or what we wish were true. They operate on supply, demand, and value. Understanding these dynamics isn't about being cynical. It's about being informed. Because once you see how the market actually works, you can't unsee it. And that knowledge changes everything about how you approach dating, relationships, and what you're willing to accept from people who finally notice you after ignoring you for decades.
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