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    Please don't fuck this thread up with hate on Yurt, I have a serious question and want to remain anonymous, IOW, not talk to family about it. Thank you in advance.

    My ex wife's daughter (not mine) contacted me some time ago. I asked why are you contacting me, I don't understand. She said her mom still talks about me and she wanted to get to know me. So I started chatting with her on Facebook.

    Her situation is bleak. She has never asked for help or money. I stupidly said I might be able to help with college....

    Not a contract, but WTF am I thinking!? Should I even be talking with her?

    And yes, she is over 18, 21 I think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    Please don't fuck this thread up with hate on Yurt, I have a serious question and want to remain anonymous, IOW, not talk to family about it. Thank you in advance.

    My ex wife's daughter (not mine) contacted me some time ago. I asked why are you contacting me, I don't understand. She said her mom still talks about me and she wanted to get to know me. So I started chatting with her on Facebook.

    Her situation is bleak. She has never asked for help or money. I stupidly said I might be able to help with college....

    Not a contract, but WTF am I thinking!? Should I even be talking with her?

    And yes, she is over 18, 21 I think.
    I see NOTHING wrong with talking to her and possibly helping her out.

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    did you know her when she was young? like has she ever met you before?


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    Quote Originally Posted by 21 days View Post
    did you know her when she was young? like has she ever met you before?
    No. But her mom talked about me a lot apparently. I didn't know she existed and I first I didn't care, but then she kept writing and I stupidly thought, well, what if she were my daughter.

    I am 99 percent sure she is not mine. And she has never claimed to be mine. And hasn't asked for money. So I am like what the fook!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Steven VanderMolen View Post
    I see NOTHING wrong with talking to her and possibly helping her out.
    Thank you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    No. But her mom talked about me a lot apparently. I didn't know she existed and I first I didn't care, but then she kept writing and I stupidly thought, well, what if she were my daughter.

    I am 99 percent sure she is not mine. And she has never claimed to be mine. And hasn't asked for money. So I am like what the fook!
    the way I see it, you literally have zero connection to her. She's basically a complete rando. She's not your blood, and you didn't raise her, or even know her. She's basically is a stranger from your description.
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    I don't feel comfortable with this.

    I think I am going to end it unless someone gives a compelling argument otherwise.

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    i mean, is it really any different from any other relationship where there is a breakup and then the ex randomly has a kid at some point? she doesn't have anything to do with you. my ex girlfriend has a kid now... it has nothing to do with me. I don't see how an ex-wife makes the situation any different.


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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    No. But her mom talked about me a lot apparently. I didn't know she existed and I first I didn't care, but then she kept writing and I stupidly thought, well, what if she were my daughter.

    I am 99 percent sure she is not mine. And she has never claimed to be mine. And hasn't asked for money. So I am like what the fook!
    Sound like peronal problems.
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    unless.... she actually could be your kid. which would be a massive mindfuck O_O


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    Quote Originally Posted by 21 days View Post
    i mean, is it really any different from any other relationship where there is a breakup and then the ex randomly has a kid at some point? she doesn't have anything to do with you. my ex girlfriend has a kid now... it has nothing to do with me. I don't see how an ex-wife makes the situation any different.
    OK.

    But why should I have anything to do with her? If I was her dad, yes. Even if she was a child from another dad when I was married to her mom, totally understand.

    But that never happened. Why in the heck is she even talking to me? And again, once I started talking with her, I realized, shit, what I am doing.

    I am not her father. Yet she wants to talk with me like I am. Good Lord Yurt

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    Quote Originally Posted by 21 days View Post
    the way I see it, you literally have zero connection to her. She's basically a complete rando. She's not your blood, and you didn't raise her, or even know her. She's basically is a stranger from your description.
    Yes. And no, I don't know of any DNA test. She hasn't brought it up.

    Look, I know I have more money than her mom/dad, but she hasn't asked for anything. And no way I am giving her anything.

    Weirdest shit in my personal life I've encountered. Should I hire an attorney 👽

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    Quote Originally Posted by Controlled Opposition View Post
    Sound like peronal problems.
    Please stop fucking yourself on my threads. Mahalo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    Please stop fucking yourself on my threads. Mahalo.
    CO definitely has something wrong with him/her/itself. I think it's a he, but I could be wrong.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    Please don't fuck this thread up with hate on Yurt, I have a serious question and want to remain anonymous, IOW, not talk to family about it. Thank you in advance.

    My ex wife's daughter (not mine) contacted me some time ago. I asked why are you contacting me, I don't understand. She said her mom still talks about me and she wanted to get to know me. So I started chatting with her on Facebook.

    Her situation is bleak. She has never asked for help or money. I stupidly said I might be able to help with college....

    Not a contract, but WTF am I thinking!? Should I even be talking with her?

    And yes, she is over 18, 21 I think.
    If you feel like helping her out and can swing it, why not? 'Helping' doesn't imply" Will Foot The Entire Bill" in a legal sense, either. Is your Ex a Psycho Mom? I've helped some people out I'm not related to and don't feel like a sucker, but others' results may vary.

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