The PDA thing demonstrates the mindset of a bigot. Why is it okay for heteros? Heteros engage in far more PDA than homos, but nobody makes that an issue. Why, because PDAs of homos make you uncomfortable. I understand that, it makes me uncomfortable too (well when it is two males... two relatively attractive women and it's something I would pay to see). But frankly, it sometimes makes me uncomfortable to see two ugly or fat people kissing.
Of course, there are some limits on PDA which apply to attractive heteros too. But when some member of the hetero club violates those rules of etiquette we don't demand that all heteros be pushed into the closet. Instead we avert our gaze or we may make them aware of their error, maybe with a smart ass comment like, "get a room."
Homosexuals should be as free to engage in PDAs as anyone else. That is, if they want to give each other a small kiss, hug or other display that would not cause alarm if they were hetero, then why not?
And it is not just PDAs, "the privacy of your own bedroom" bigots do not want people to be openly gay in any manner. They want homos to go back into the closet, where they can pretend they don't exist. They don't want to hear some guy talking with a lisp and his hands, because they are then confronted with thoughts that make them uncomfortable. They won't really be satisfied even if the affection only takes place in private, because they will continue to rationalize their desire to lash out at homosexuals for "making" them feel icky.
But here is the difference between someone like me, who does not really want to see two males kissing, and a bigot who feels justified in lashing out or restraining others.
The bigots are little emo bitches who blame others for their internal discomfort. They seem to believe their feelings are valid at all times. So when they feel discomfort from seeing two people of the same sex kiss or when they respond to a passing black/brown skinned kid passing by clutching their purse/wallet a little tighter, they don't question those emotions. If they realize, even just a little, that they may be in the wrong, instead of dealing with it, they feel guilt which causes them to feel under attack. They then rationalize their emotions as valid and lash out at the stimuli that "caused" them. With homophobes it is elevated because many actually feel arousal, which really pisses them off.
But, those feelings are not valid and do not justify violence or restraint of others. They are the problem of the person who feels them. If it bothers you then that is your fucking problem and it is totally internal to you. Quit blaming others for your emotions and irrational desire to lash out.
Leviticus 19:33 And if a stranger sojourn with thee in your land, ye shall not do him wrong. 34 The stranger that sojourneth with you shall be unto you as the homeborn among you, and thou shalt love him as thyself; for ye were strangers in the land of Egypt: I am the LORD your God.
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