Cypress (01-24-2022)
Ever wonder why this forum is so nasty?
"People want a scapegoat
When you are struggling, whether it’s problems at work, low self-esteem, conflicts in your relationships, etc., it feels much better to funnel your negative energy into blaming someone else than to confront your own role in your problems. A lot of people join hate groups because it allows them to funnel the blame for all of their problems into another group of people while being supported by a group of people who share their beliefs and make them feel like they belong.
They’re lonely and seeking connections, even hateful ones
Many other people join hate groups because it fills their need for friendship and belonging. You don’t need to do or be anything special, all you have to do is be negative towards other people. It feels easy. Likewise, some people find it easier to make connections by putting others down and seeing who agrees than to prove to people that they are interesting and valuable companions.
They fear the unknown
When someone new enters a group, particularly if they are in a position of influence, many people immediately begin gossiping negative things about the person because they fear how that individual will change their group dynamics. Sharing hatred toward the new person is a way for the existing group to strengthen their bonds in defensive against the outsider.
Their insecurities get the best of them
Hatred also surfaces when people are highly insecure. Often, they’ll compare themselves to other people and when they come to the conclusion that the other person may be better than them or possesses traits that they don’t want to acknowledge that they also share, people may speak out against that person to project their anxiety onto them.
Hatred defines social lines
Humans desire structure and certainty in their social lives. To establish that, people naturally divide into in-groups (social circles where everyone feel like they belong with one another) and out-groups (people who exist outside of social circles and are typically not welcomed into them). When people declare their dislike for others, it helps people understand the boundaries between social circles. This is a powerful motivator for people to form bonds because it satisfies their need to feel connected to others.
Mutual dislike evokes a stronger response than mutual like
In one study, people were shown a video of two people having a conversation in which the man is politely hitting on the woman. After being asked if they liked or disliked the man, they were told they were going to meet people who shared their opinion of them and asked how likely they were going to get along with the person they meet. People who had a negative opinion of the man were far more likely to say they would get along well with someone who shared their negative opinion than those who had a positive opinion.
Sharing hatred can be an expression of vulnerability
Research shows that to form lasting, intimate bonds with people, you have to be vulnerable with them–that is you have to share your authentic, unfiltered feelings. Instead of being negative toward another person because of the internal struggles described above, you may share that you hate someone for a valid, personal reason such as they hurt you or hurt someone and/or something you care about. This instance is a moment of vulnerability because you are sharing a difficult experience which can lead others to hate the other person on your behalf and bond with you."
The Science of Hatred
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Cypress (01-24-2022)
We do see a lot of blaming and projecting in this forum.
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Because U R shit quality people.Why We Love To Hate
The End.
This illegal illegitimate regime that runs America is at fault...not me.... they do not represent me and I have long objected to their crimes against humanity.
Left - right politics is a peer pressure thing.
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Since hatred is a product of low self-esteem, it is only logical that hateful people suffer from low self-esteem.
If you find yourself being hateful, know that you are loved, that you are a good person deserving of your own stature in this world.
It is also good to remember that there will always be other people who seem more impressive than you.
And that's OK. Would you really want to live in a world where you are the most impressive person?
It's good to live in a world with people more amazing than you.
And that's not a problem. It's a good thing.
So just chill and be OK with it.
Ain't nuthin gonna bite ya for it.
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Best confession thread I've seen today from the Party of Hate... Long overdue....
If hating is a crutch, then we need to learn to do without.
Find your Forrest Gump moment. You know, the point at which he sheds the braces and starts running?
Shed that hatred and find the love in your heart for the people you have been hating.
You don't have to tell them. You don't even have to talk to them. The difference can be something totally inside you, simply in the way you think of them.
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The thing about hatred is it hurts the hater more than the person being hated.
Suppose there are two people. One of them is a hater, and the other is a non-hater.
The hater hates the non-hater essentially because of envy. To the hater, the non-hater comes across as being better than the hater, looking down on them. That's the perception of the hater, anyway, whether it's true or not. The hater is envious of this other person because they seem to have their life more together. The non-hater has solved this basic problem of conquering hatred, that the hater has not solved. The hater would like to be at such peace with the world, but isn't there, so they have envy for the non-hater.
The person doing the hating is consumed with hatred.
All the hater can do is find solace in the company of other haters. Sharing this common feeling provides a sense of companionship, a shared experience, and identity.
When an individual is consumed with hatred, it is impossible for that individual to even imagine their life without the hatred. It's a crutch. It's a security blanket. Seems scary to go without that. Ending the hatred would required dropping a shared bond with other haters. A pretty scary proposal.
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The non-hater is at peace with the world. If there is someone who hates the non-hater, all the non-hater wants to do is simply stay away from the hater. The non-hater seeks peace. That means having distance from haters. The non-hater loves life, loves enjoying the passage of time, and doesn't want the negative energy of hatred.
The non-hater knows that there are hateful people on the world. The non-hater also knows that it is unlikely that haters are going to drop their hatred if they are consumed with it. The only thing the non-hater can do, really, is simply distance themselves from haters and all that bad energy.
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So much hatred from the alt right at the very questioning of hatred.
PoliTalker (01-17-2022)
Hello Walt,
Just the science of explaining the tendency to hate is enough to elicit a strong response from those who are in denial of the reasons they hate.
Haters are gonna hate, and they are not gonna want to see anything that suggests they should not hate.
If hatred is a security blanket, that is a toughie to give that up.
It's tough to give up hatred when one is consumed with it.
And it's all locked in with peer pressure and (negative) support groups.
Pretty scary to think of walking away from that.
But sometimes the scariest things are precisely the things we need to face up to, and conquer.
And as long as we are stuck at an impasse of being unable to muster the courage and bravery to do that, then we are unable to progress beyond that point.
Shackled to hatred like being hooked on a drug.
Nobody else can help. It is something only the afflicted individual can correct. The hater has to decide on their own that they want to change.
They have to decide that being consumed with hatred is not a good thing to be.
They have to yearn for a better life.
They have to be bold, have to find a new determination to change their entire way of looking at the world.
It is so daunting that most will never achieve it.
Sad.
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Walt (01-17-2022)
Are these people haters or just idiots?
https://www.npr.org/2020/10/27/92820...endships-apart
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