Hello ThatOwlWoman,
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ThatOwlWoman
Sure thing, mom.
The only problem here is, of course, that name-calling was only one of the many reason why I have chosen to ignore the trolls. Carry on.
When I created my PIP I had to wrangle with what I wanted to be acceptable, and what I deemed unacceptable. I realized that if I wanted to hold people to a certain standard that I would need to meet it myself.
That took some doing. I was aided by having an interest in habit control. We humans are creatures of habit, like so many animals. But if we desire, we have the ability to purposely change our habits. The easiest way to do that is to replace an existing habit with a new one. It will be required to notice each time the old habit is repeated, and to then override the normal impulse to repeat the old habit. Substitute the desired new action on each occasion.
Do this for 2-3 weeks and the new action becomes habit.
After that point it will be decreasingly necessary to purposely override the old action. The new desirable action will become the new habit, and will be performed subconsciously.
I used this many years ago to reduce sugar consumption.
I would always get a soft drink with lunch. I needed to cut some calories out of my diet, so I decided to switch to water. It wasn't fun at first. I was so used to the sweet beverage!
But I forced myself. Sure enough, after a few weeks I no longer even desired the soft drink. It got to the point where if I ate at a place that offered a soft drink with the 'combo,' and the rest of the combo was deemed to be a good deal, that I would pay for the combo but not get the soft drink. Sometimes they would bring it anyway. It didn't matter. I had the will power to have it right there in front of me and not touch it.
Such a feeling of empowerment ensued that I have used the technique extensively ever since that time.
I can't tell you how fabulous it is to think I am in control of my habits, rather than my habits controlling me.
Of course, I know there are some habits I would not consider changing.
Hey. I'm only human. We are creatures of habit.
Personal Ignore Policy PIP: I like civil discourse. I will give you all the respect in the world if you respect me. Mouth off to me, or express overt racism, you will be PERMANENTLY Ignore Listed. Zero tolerance. No exceptions. I'll never read a word you write, even if quoted by another, nor respond to you, nor participate in your threads. ... Ignore the shallow. Cherish the thoughtful. Long Live Civil Discourse, Mutual Respect, and Good Debate! ps: Feel free to adopt my PIP. It works well.
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