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    Please don't fuck this thread up with hate on Yurt, I have a serious question and want to remain anonymous, IOW, not talk to family about it. Thank you in advance.

    My ex wife's daughter (not mine) contacted me some time ago. I asked why are you contacting me, I don't understand. She said her mom still talks about me and she wanted to get to know me. So I started chatting with her on Facebook.

    Her situation is bleak. She has never asked for help or money. I stupidly said I might be able to help with college....

    Not a contract, but WTF am I thinking!? Should I even be talking with her?

    And yes, she is over 18, 21 I think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    Please don't fuck this thread up with hate on Yurt, I have a serious question and want to remain anonymous, IOW, not talk to family about it. Thank you in advance.

    My ex wife's daughter (not mine) contacted me some time ago. I asked why are you contacting me, I don't understand. She said her mom still talks about me and she wanted to get to know me. So I started chatting with her on Facebook.

    Her situation is bleak. She has never asked for help or money. I stupidly said I might be able to help with college....

    Not a contract, but WTF am I thinking!? Should I even be talking with her?

    And yes, she is over 18, 21 I think.
    I see NOTHING wrong with talking to her and possibly helping her out.

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    did you know her when she was young? like has she ever met you before?
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    Quote Originally Posted by 21 days View Post
    did you know her when she was young? like has she ever met you before?
    No. But her mom talked about me a lot apparently. I didn't know she existed and I first I didn't care, but then she kept writing and I stupidly thought, well, what if she were my daughter.

    I am 99 percent sure she is not mine. And she has never claimed to be mine. And hasn't asked for money. So I am like what the fook!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Steven VanderMolen View Post
    I see NOTHING wrong with talking to her and possibly helping her out.
    Thank you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    No. But her mom talked about me a lot apparently. I didn't know she existed and I first I didn't care, but then she kept writing and I stupidly thought, well, what if she were my daughter.

    I am 99 percent sure she is not mine. And she has never claimed to be mine. And hasn't asked for money. So I am like what the fook!
    the way I see it, you literally have zero connection to her. She's basically a complete rando. She's not your blood, and you didn't raise her, or even know her. She's basically is a stranger from your description.
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    Grind is one of the internets most beloved and influential political thinkers and deep-level theorists in the modern era. He rose to prominence in early 2015 when he alleged, contrary to the dominant theory of christiefanism of the time, that Bill Clintons wife was indeed running for president and wasn't considering settling down to be a grandmother. In 2016, Grind was one of the key figures in proposing the new revolutionary theory of "30% is not a rare occurrence" which shook up the JPP political landscape like no other theory ever had before. His academic prowess, deep-level analysis and remarkable insight into human nature and psychology will undoubtedly result in further complexities being untangled and laid bare. He currently resides in boston, his hobbies include #rekking libs, vaping, and patriotism. You can find him in a thread near you.

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    I don't feel comfortable with this.

    I think I am going to end it unless someone gives a compelling argument otherwise.

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    i mean, is it really any different from any other relationship where there is a breakup and then the ex randomly has a kid at some point? she doesn't have anything to do with you. my ex girlfriend has a kid now... it has nothing to do with me. I don't see how an ex-wife makes the situation any different.
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    Grind is one of the internets most beloved and influential political thinkers and deep-level theorists in the modern era. He rose to prominence in early 2015 when he alleged, contrary to the dominant theory of christiefanism of the time, that Bill Clintons wife was indeed running for president and wasn't considering settling down to be a grandmother. In 2016, Grind was one of the key figures in proposing the new revolutionary theory of "30% is not a rare occurrence" which shook up the JPP political landscape like no other theory ever had before. His academic prowess, deep-level analysis and remarkable insight into human nature and psychology will undoubtedly result in further complexities being untangled and laid bare. He currently resides in boston, his hobbies include #rekking libs, vaping, and patriotism. You can find him in a thread near you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    No. But her mom talked about me a lot apparently. I didn't know she existed and I first I didn't care, but then she kept writing and I stupidly thought, well, what if she were my daughter.

    I am 99 percent sure she is not mine. And she has never claimed to be mine. And hasn't asked for money. So I am like what the fook!
    Sound like peronal problems.
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    unless.... she actually could be your kid. which would be a massive mindfuck O_O
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    Grind is one of the internets most beloved and influential political thinkers and deep-level theorists in the modern era. He rose to prominence in early 2015 when he alleged, contrary to the dominant theory of christiefanism of the time, that Bill Clintons wife was indeed running for president and wasn't considering settling down to be a grandmother. In 2016, Grind was one of the key figures in proposing the new revolutionary theory of "30% is not a rare occurrence" which shook up the JPP political landscape like no other theory ever had before. His academic prowess, deep-level analysis and remarkable insight into human nature and psychology will undoubtedly result in further complexities being untangled and laid bare. He currently resides in boston, his hobbies include #rekking libs, vaping, and patriotism. You can find him in a thread near you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phantasmal View Post
    Grindís got you beat by miles. He is very intelligent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 21 days View Post
    i mean, is it really any different from any other relationship where there is a breakup and then the ex randomly has a kid at some point? she doesn't have anything to do with you. my ex girlfriend has a kid now... it has nothing to do with me. I don't see how an ex-wife makes the situation any different.
    OK.

    But why should I have anything to do with her? If I was her dad, yes. Even if she was a child from another dad when I was married to her mom, totally understand.

    But that never happened. Why in the heck is she even talking to me? And again, once I started talking with her, I realized, shit, what I am doing.

    I am not her father. Yet she wants to talk with me like I am. Good Lord Yurt

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    Quote Originally Posted by 21 days View Post
    the way I see it, you literally have zero connection to her. She's basically a complete rando. She's not your blood, and you didn't raise her, or even know her. She's basically is a stranger from your description.
    Yes. And no, I don't know of any DNA test. She hasn't brought it up.

    Look, I know I have more money than her mom/dad, but she hasn't asked for anything. And no way I am giving her anything.

    Weirdest shit in my personal life I've encountered. Should I hire an attorney 👽

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    Quote Originally Posted by Controlled Opposition View Post
    Sound like peronal problems.
    Please stop fucking yourself on my threads. Mahalo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    Please stop fucking yourself on my threads. Mahalo.
    CO definitely has something wrong with him/her/itself. I think it's a he, but I could be wrong.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OG Yurt View Post
    Please don't fuck this thread up with hate on Yurt, I have a serious question and want to remain anonymous, IOW, not talk to family about it. Thank you in advance.

    My ex wife's daughter (not mine) contacted me some time ago. I asked why are you contacting me, I don't understand. She said her mom still talks about me and she wanted to get to know me. So I started chatting with her on Facebook.

    Her situation is bleak. She has never asked for help or money. I stupidly said I might be able to help with college....

    Not a contract, but WTF am I thinking!? Should I even be talking with her?

    And yes, she is over 18, 21 I think.
    If you feel like helping her out and can swing it, why not? 'Helping' doesn't imply" Will Foot The Entire Bill" in a legal sense, either. Is your Ex a Psycho Mom? I've helped some people out I'm not related to and don't feel like a sucker, but others' results may vary.

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