Hello Jade Dragon,
I have to admire your diligence to trying to get people to chill. I really do.
I completely disagree with the thought that it can be done, but the attempt is extremely admirable.
The problem is you can't change people. They have to want to change themselves.
Trolls get off on 'being tough,' and being 'able to take it.' Having no or a small Ignore List is thought to be a source of pride.
I read every page of this thread that wasn't blocked by my own very large Ignore List. It was good to see people trying to be civil, but it was also quite expected that some would not be able to do it.
I remain convinced my approach is best for me. I put it out there plainly and clearly. No second chances. That fact that no exceptions are ever made is what makes it work so effectively. And that also makes it easy to maintain. It hurts sometimes to excommunicate somebody, but making examples out of people turns them into my best advocates. Any grumblings about my intolerance only serve to let others know I am not bluffing and I mean exactly what I say. The result is that people know they have to straighten up when they address me or I will simply stop responding to them permanently. The ones I am left with are all quite sincere. And that's all I sought.
People also know that they can 'drop their guard' with me, that I am not going to attack them. I only attack ideas.
I know that many just want to unload their frustrations with the other side. Not me. I am here to learn and discuss.
Personal Ignore Policy PIP: I like civil discourse. I will give you all the respect in the world if you respect me. Mouth off to me, or express overt racism, you will be PERMANENTLY Ignore Listed. Zero tolerance. No exceptions. I'll never read a word you write, even if quoted by another, nor respond to you, nor participate in your threads. ... Ignore the shallow. Cherish the thoughtful. Long Live Civil Discourse, Mutual Respect, and Good Debate! ps: Feel free to adopt my PIP. It works well.
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